We, human beings, are complex creatures. In one side we embody our body, mind and soul; but, on the other side, as social beings, our emotions, environment, sense of meaning and how we relate with others, are also are crucial for us to feel balanced, content and joyful.
I became aware of this some years ago, when for the first time a coach gave me an exercise named the Wheel of Life, to help me find out what was the cause of sense of distress, unbalance and dissatisfaction I was facing at that time. Trust me it was a very bumpy circle the one I drew on that first assessment, but it opened my eyes to what was going on in my life.
As a coach, I have been searching on this issue for few years and although there are many theories on what are the main components to our life, those that help us feel joyful and fulfilled, my point of view is, that our life stands over six (6) pillars, as shown in the image below (Body, Mind, Emotions, Meaning, Relationships and Resources).
If we focus only in one or few of these pillars, forgetting about the others, our life suffers, even if we are unaware of what’s happening.
In example, if you focus on pursuing your professional vision but neglect your sleep and rest, relationships and emotional balance, you may end getting sick, depressed or burnt out, with not knowing really why is that.
When these pillars are unbalanced, you tend to feel stressed, depressed, demotivated and tired, while with more balance, you feel more motivated, focused, joyful and in control of your life.
If you drag yourself out of bed every morning, with no enthusiasm for the day ahead or if you’re feeling stuck, chances are that you have neglected some of these pillars and are beginning to feel the consequences. Trust me, I know it from experience.
Taking a moment to assess the current status of them, considering what they involve, you can identify those areas that require attention and take intentional action to improve them and recover your sense of wellbeing.
So, why don’t you take some minutes to evaluate your current satisfaction with each pillar (Body, Mind, Emotions, Meaning, Relations, Resources) from 1 (dissatisfied) to 10 (fully satisfied), and find out where you may need some changes to regain your sense of meaning and joy. You can use the circle below for this purpose.
If the results show a bumpy circle and you realize that you’ve neglected some aspects of your life, ask yourself why is that happening? Is it that with all your roles and duties you have forgotten some of them? Or perhaps embracing that pillar makes you feel uncomfortable?
How would your life be, if you took care of that or those pillars? How would you feel if all pillars were more balanced? What can you do today to improve your situation? What can you change next week or in a month that will help you regain balance, wellbeing and joy?
Would you like some help identifying how to balance the pillars of your life? Let’s have an exploration conversation.